Comments on The Relationship Diva: Games Boys Play

Preternatural -- I appreciate your insight. It see...

2010-01-31T23:59:53.018-06:00

Preternatural -- I appreciate your insight. It seems that ultimately, both men and women have a hard time reading each other, thus leading to lack of authenticity. Truthfully, it's all these conditions and parameters we place on relationships that does more harm than good... Thus making both sides skeptical.

At most, we should focus on being as truly authentic as we can with someone on the off chance that maybe, just maybe, they feel the same way. In which case, there's no confusion about what someone wants from us when we meet them -- then, leave the rest up to chance.

I disagree with Kelly's point conditionally. T...

2010-01-29T15:56:11.286-06:00

I disagree with Kelly's point conditionally. The condition would be for the men that this post inaccurately describes their behavior. We are no different or rather no less complex than the ladies. I've gotten a number a time or so in the moment but, as with opening brand new clothes at home only to find they lack the magic they had in store; very often the next day's memory of the encounter doesn't match up with the remembered heat of the encounter. The heat could be attributed to cognac or even just the euphoria of being out with the guys away from whatever work and responsibility or just being in an unreasonably good and yes magnanimous mood. Can it be hurtful, potentially but given that there's no sincere emotion favorable, a non call in this instance is a great favor and service rendered ladies. Still, this is not unlike married women, committed women or women otherwise getting dressed up going out dancing, when they know before they leave home that no numbers taken during the course of the night will be used or that fake numbers will be given out. Sorry there is a difference. The difference being that in one situation the ladies know before they even get to the club that there will be no calls returned or/and fake numbers will be used. Neither of these instances really matter in the grand scheme.

We all have different expectations. For some, our hearts (even just a little bit) may be attached to the exchange of numbers. With others the extension and acceptance of dancing proposals gets them hoping even again if just a little bit because asking someone to dance is a bit harder than asking for a number that might be fake.

The heart's primary purpose is to tell the owner the truth of the moment; what we really care about, in kind telling us what we need to protect: ourselves. Many of us are out there putting our feelings on the line, knowing full well what might hurt us, all the while feigning (otherwise known as deception) invulnerability. Sadly, there are even some cats who really wants to call a beautiful girl who's number he was blessed with the night before, but he won't because he'd rather make a point to his boys. In this he's not being a good steward to his own emotions, but then what would the relationship look like even if he calls and yet lives to prove points to his boy? In the final analysis she might rather that he not call at all than spend her time dating this dude living by the whims of his friends.

Great point, Kelly! And thanks for sharing the sto...

2010-01-28T22:30:13.741-06:00

Great point, Kelly! And thanks for sharing the story. I guess it just seems illogical as to why even bothering. I know that for me personally, I just wouldn't even bother. But then in reading the post you sent through, it seems to make a lot of sense and appears to boil down to one element: ego.

Either way, I guess it's part of the process of finding the one...

I read this story recently that shed some light on...

2010-01-28T13:00:35.439-06:00

I read this story recently that shed some light on the reason a guy asks a girl for her number and then doesn't call back:
http://www.themalepov.com/2010/01/why-we-ask-for-your-number-and-don’t-call/comment-page-1/#comment-8

Most of the time, it has nothing to do with us, so we shouldn't spend so much time agonizing over how it happened. It's easier to just move on, even if we are disappointed.