Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Spring Cleaning

Isn't it a breath of fresh air when you've cleaned out your closet, after you realize how much junk you've been collecting -- and for no other reason than you're afraid to throw things away?

I'd say so. And that's the best analogy I had when thinking about old flames and what it means to remove their phone numbers in my cell phone. 

See, many people are clutter bugs -- keeping all the old junk because it's comfortable. Heck, I'll own my own clutter tendencies. But, I'm finding that's collecting and cluttering is what you don't want to do when you're trying to move on. And keeping their numbers is a prime example of collecting the excess.

For a while, I tried changing the names of all old exes to "IGNORE", so if the number called me, I knew it was someone I should not be speaking to. But, that didn't work all that well either, given the fact that I KNEW the number thus allowing me to stay in touch if I wanted.

So when Casanova reached out -- and I responded -- I considered doing a bit of housekeeping... And, then, when I started getting super short answers from Jackson, and slow to no responses from Lionel, I realized it was high time I purge the phone book of the men that likely won't be resurfacing in my life.

So in one shot, Jackson, Lionel and the Casanova disappeared from my phone book. (We were actually rooting for Jackson, right? Yeah, maybe not...)

Now, I know it doesn't seem like much. But for me, the ability to delete them is symbolic, in a way. Basically, it states that I won't give anyone the time that doesn't give me the time -- sticking to the principle that silence does indeed speak volumes.

Image Credit: Angela Kohler/Photoxpress


  1. I love this post! What a great topic and your analogy was spot on! This speaks volumes! Keep up the great work.

  2. Beautifully written. I do this every now and then when I realize that that guy I went on ONE date with (and who never contacted me again) is still in my phonebook. *delete*!

  3. @nandoism and @Zoe -- Thanks so very much for your feedback! It felt good and I look forward to more of your responses. I hope to keep cleaning too - it's strangely empowering in situations where it's easy to feel powerless.

  4. There's a few people in my phone that I really should delete but I just can't bare to...yet. But eventually I will get to that point.

  5. @SilverNeurotic: Why can't you bear to? Is it the possibility that you don't want to lose contact yet?

    Whatever you do, "spring cleaning" can help you move on for YOU -- and find someone itching that makes sure to dial you.