Admittedly, when you start dating someone, you can only hope that the two of you don't run into any obstacles that would get in the way of getting closer to each other. Things like an intense ex or a pushy best friend can really end up being troublesome in a blooming relationship. But, what do you do if it's something else -- like a child?
It's actually one of the very issues that got in the way of me and my ex, Charles. And, it seems like the very issue Marisol is tackling with more than one of the men in her life. For starters, she learned through the ever revealing Facebook that her old hook-up, Will, is as of a month ago a father. FACEBOOK. And the kicker here? The baby was born just a few days after he spent the night with her. (UGH!)
And now, Marcus, the new younger man in her life, has just recently introduced her to his very small child, who's basically just shy of pre-school age!
I have to admit, this makes me shudder NOT because of the children. I grew up in a huge family, love kids and hope to have one or maybe two of my own (as much as I may put up appearances). But because these guys aren't married nor are they currently in long term relationships, it's just a little trickier to comprehend. Essentially, these two young men brought a whole new life into this world just like that. Meanwhile, me, very career centric and living on my own can't even fathom the idea of taking care of another life form right now. At least, not alone.
I truly believe that children are the result of very special unions, regardless of how couples fare out after their offspring is born. But, I get a little confused when this happens in a situation like Will's or Marcus's -- had so young and then dealing with the reactions of potential dating companions, like Marisol.
But, while not a fan of how young he is as a dad, I must commend Marcus for his upfront approach letting Marisol know about his child early on. It's honest, real, and can be seen as a mature move. Will, on the other hand...
Regardless of whether someone has a child or not, it's how the parent puts it out there that matters. Then the rest is up to the two in the relationship. If it's strong enough, it'll weather the storm, right?
Well, that's the hope.