Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Dreamin' Up Intimacy

In this winter season, keeping warm ends up being especially important. Me -- I have Snuggies and a teddy that most times do the trick. Although, honestly, at other times that isn't quite enough. No... Sometimes you need more.

Now, people deal with this kind of need in all sorts of ways. Some go wild and hook-up with someone whom they know little about, just to be able to dismiss it... Some have consistent f*** buddies to lean on from time to time... And others rely on a more personal, self-satisfaction. (*nudge, nudge, wink, wink*)

Honestly, while I still prefer an actual guy (of course, barring any major physical or emotional complications... Wait, that's a laughable idea.), I've come to find a deep satisfaction in the things that can't turn you down. You know: books, daydreams... In those you can create or imagine your own world with a leading man that can turn you on in the way that works for you.

Don't misunderstand. This isn't to replace a real man -- a mission that I consider ongoing. But, sometimes, it's good to stretch the imagination and dream up things in the way they'll work for you -- especially when the pickings are slim, which they seem to be for me at the moment. I'm even finding it a bit harder to meet men these days, likely due to the hibernation effect that winter creates.

So, while I keep my options open, I'll work on conjuring up appealing images or indulging in romance novels. Those are smoother to get through, and you don't have to worry about awkward conversation beforehand.

The way I see it, it'll work for now. But during Spring? Well, that's a little different.


  1. Thanks for sharing...I feel grateful to live in L.A. where the winters are pretty nice and they don't keep people hibernating. But I know what you mean about having something to count on...I like to remember this after girl's night out when I came home to an empty apartment while my friends hooked up. Sigh.

  2. you own a snuggie?

  3. I know I own a Snuggie... But even that's not all that interactive... Sometimes you need a bit more.