Saturday, October 31, 2009
Friday, October 30, 2009
I went mostly to do a little looking and possibly also do a little shopping, amused by all the men I noticed with their girlfriends. In most cases it seemed to be the same thing: the woman would hold something up and the man would determine whether or not he was interested based on the look on his face.
Anyway, at that point I started to think about the point of shopping for these types of things. While I've never been with any of my boyfriends to shop for my intimate apparel, I've certainly had one or two that allude to it or reference "Vicky's" when talking about underwear in general. "I think it's hot when my woman can look so sweet yet so sexy behind closed doors," an old boyfriend told me once. "It's like that Usher song: a man wants a lady in the street but a freak in the bed."
And that, to me, was clear as day. The great thing about stores like VS is that they allow you to live a little bit of that fantasy in a private way. Those undergarments can make someone feel sexy, "angelic" (as one of their collections would suggest) or turn someone on, and it's a thing that almost no one needs to know. It makes it fine to embrace that side of us, while still maintaining a demeanor.
Everyone has their own definition of what is sexy, so admittedly, I think the line is still a little blurry. But, it's about what you're comfortable with and letting that be your compass. After all, stores like Vicky's (or Fredericks of Hollywood if that strikes your fancy) will always be there to fill the void whenever you feel you need a little spice.
So... Sweet, Sexy or both?
Thursday, October 29, 2009
[Note: Women, I encourage you to get it. It would put a GREAT deal of perspective when it comes to men on the dating scene, making you hip to the game, and maybe even teach you how to navigate the scene. But I digress.]
While I'm not done with the book (but am VERY amused and plan to TOTALLY delve into that here) I did see something that caught my attention: "Peacocking." In essence, it's the art of dressing yourself up in a way that you stand out to your object of affection.
Think about it. Things that stand out at you draw your attention. And that is ESPECIALLY true of online dating profiles. What catches your eye?
OK Cupid is giving people a chance to tell them just that through its Best Online Dating Profile contest. You can vote for the profile that stands out to you - or maybe even find some faces that make you want to join? Either way, vote for your faves, or feel free to enter it yourself. You never know what you'll find...
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