Thursday, November 12, 2009

Give & Take

See, here's the thing: Ideally, relationships are a 50/50 split. It takes two to make it work or as one of my favorite Twitterers once said in a tweet: "There's a difference between jumping through hoops and dancing a tango. Only 1 person needed to hold the hoop. 2 needed to dance."
The thing is, that at any given point, a relationship will shift and one inevitably is doing more for the other. Of course, this changes over time so it kind of evens out. But, somehow, I think one person may do a little more of the "giving" overall.

Mind you, this is completely observational... However, it's bound to happen. When I was with my ex, Charles, who I was head over heels for, I would have done anything -- anything. And often, I found myself being much more accomodating than I ever would have been for other men in my life. Essentially, he made me want to give.

One of my close friends, Isabelle and her husband Gregory, are perfect together. It's clear they're in love... But, when it comes down to it, he just spoils her. He's super affectionate, he lets her get what she wants... It's cute yet icky to watch. And, it was the flip from my ex and me.

Truth is, the scales will always tip and shift, with one person giving more any any given time, which is not a bad thing. That said, it's work to keep it balanced... Meaning it's just as important to give as it is to receive.

All theory of course. But I mean, at some point, I'm sure we've all skewed a certain way in our relationships... Or maybe that's me.

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