Friday, October 30, 2009

The Two Sides of a Lady

Earlier this week I went into a store that exudes sexy: Victoria's Secret. As a popular spot for women, and a dream for men, the store offers products and luxuries that romanticize sensuality in such a way that you can't help but feel attractive and appealing. (That I would attribute in large part to great marketing plus a simple concept that EVERYONE is interested in)

I went mostly to do a little looking and possibly also do a little shopping, amused by all the men I noticed with their girlfriends. In most cases it seemed to be the same thing: the woman would hold something up and the man would determine whether or not he was interested based on the look on his face.

Anyway, at that point I started to think about the point of shopping for these types of things. While I've never been with any of my boyfriends to shop for my intimate apparel, I've certainly had one or two that allude to it or reference "Vicky's" when talking about underwear in general. "I think it's hot when my woman can look so sweet yet so sexy behind closed doors," an old boyfriend told me once. "It's like that Usher song: a man wants a lady in the street but a freak in the bed."

And that, to me, was clear as day. The great thing about stores like VS is that they allow you to live a little bit of that fantasy in a private way. Those undergarments can make someone feel sexy, "angelic" (as one of their collections would suggest) or turn someone on, and it's a thing that almost no one needs to know. It makes it fine to embrace that side of us, while still maintaining a demeanor.

Everyone has their own definition of what is sexy, so admittedly, I think the line is still a little blurry. But, it's about what you're comfortable with and letting that be your compass. After all, stores like Vicky's (or Fredericks of Hollywood if that strikes your fancy) will always be there to fill the void whenever you feel you need a little spice.

So... Sweet, Sexy or both?


  1. You know, I've always been a single girl. I'm 20 and not interested in marriage at all at the moment, and I don't want to lead anyone to believe I am. (I'm a student, that's my priority for now.) But I think it's great when married couples shop at stores like those. I mean you don't have to be half naked in public, but you can be sexy for him. I think it's a good thing. Stores like that, I've never personally been to, but I have bought "sexy" bras and underwear. No one has seen them but they make a person feel more confident in themselves, even if they are single.

  2. What is great with Victoria's secret is that it is not vulgar at all. It's the kind of sexy/sweet I am looking for. Plus it's colorful and I love the idea of wearing dark clothes in the winter but having those super colorful panties underwear. It creates a little suprise :)

  3. MeCassieMarie & Valerie -- I think you raise excellent points -- it's healthy to embrace sensuality and sexuality. Truth is, it's much more normal now than it's ever been. And, the fact that we can be comfortable in it is plenty enough for us to not only embrace but feel confident in it. Which means it's quite alright to be sweet & sexy all at once.