Well, before I became the wise person I am today (insert chuckle here), I had one of those guilty pleasures that I'll call Terrence. He was smooth, confident, attractive and said all the right things. In short, he had taken a page from the book of Casanova, and somehow caught his hooks into me. In short, I was sprung.
Anyway, we had this whirlwind thing when we started spending time together - stolen afternoons, evenings, mornings... All very sweet and innocent interactions. And, I got a kick out of being seen with a guy so hot and smooth. Not that I didn't think highly of myself, but he was extremely good-looking and I loved every second of it. What an ego boost!
And then the situation changes. He meets my friend at one of his performances (oh, did I leave out he was a wanna be musician?). Yes, so I bring her to one of his shows and soon, I'm long forgotten - he's taken an INSTANT liking to my friend.
After that he starts reaching out to her. Repeatedly. And over the course of several weeks. And while she responded back (let's save that for another blog post), his trying to run that game on her and hit on me made him a CREEP, even more than Jerk. I called him out on it, fought with him and even cursed him out. But, he continued to deny it, letting me know that he still thought of me and he didn't know what I was talking about. Essentially, he was trying to game me.
And here's the kicker: I almost let him. Then, after a LONG rant session with friends, and realizing just how silly he made me, I decided to quit him cold turkey. It was hard. But I did.
Then, this past weekend, I was tested when Terrence sends me a text, wondering (ever so casually) why he hasn't heard from me in a while. Now, at this point I ask myself: "Are you f****** serious?"So, as opposed to devoting energy to this, I deleted the message. There was no way I wanted to keep this alive.
My personal lesson: Even if his eyes do shine a golden brown that give you butterflies and he has a killer smile... All that glitters isn't gold.
That's why it's a good thing that I like other shiny metals like silver.