A little over two years ago I went out with this guy. I'd met him about 4 years ago, and after tons of flirting, it came down that he was into me -- and me into him. Cool, huh?
So we go out, are having a FABULOUS time and sometime towards the end of the night, I mention that when I started (we met in the same workplace, different departments), I had a crush on a guy we both knew, but it went nowhere. From that point, the night took a huge nosedive. And we haven't gone out on a date since.
We've spoken since then, and he's called me... "I want to see you," blah blah... "It's been forever," blah blah... All these sweet things about how awesome I am (granted, nice to hear) but no commitment about taking this forward. So we end up in this holding pattern, which I think is because its easier to hold on to something while waiting for the real thing.
Simply put: If we had a future, it wouldn't be so hard to just make me his one and only. Yet, it's like four years since we met, and two years since our date, yet we cannot get past the rocky hurdle of a sweet-first-date-turned-ugly. Sad, eh?
Which leads me to this: If he's into you, it's usually much easier -- and there would be a lot less of a holding time, if there is any waiting involved.
So what to do now? I mean, a girl does need to pass the time. And he's cute.
Well... No one said I had to commit right now. I am, after all, looking for my own real thing. :-)