Saturday, November 15, 2008

What About Your Friends?

When I was younger, I loved the group TLC. You know what I'm talking about: T-Boz, Left Eye and Chili? They had funky clothes, fun beats, and animated videos. I didn't always get the messages to their songs, but all that mattered to me was that they were catchy.

The other day, I heard a familiar song -- "What About Your Friends." I didn't know much about the lyrics, so I decided to search them online. It has been over 15 years after all. And what it boils down to: "Will your friends be around when you need them the most?"

I know that my closest friends have been my friends for years, and people that I believe I would go through the fire with because they trust me, and I trust them. And no matter what, you can lean on them, and they can lean on you.

Maybe I'm naive, but when I go into my friendships, I go into all of them expecting them to last forever. And to me, my friends are heroes. Any people that can listen to me fret as often as I do would have to be a hero in my book. :-)

I also know I've been burned deep when I've had friendships change. I guess it's hard when you've positioned someone in one way, and somewhere, when you weren't looking, it's no longer quite what you thought.

That said, I want to always be that for them. It's so hard when you're immersed in trouble spots in your life to see outside of that sometimes. And, I want to always come back to Earth and be their rock.

I guess it's the price that comes with getting older and friendships are harder than they used to be. And that's real. But still, you know? The truth is, I guess it's part of the growing pains, isn't it? It may be, but I'm not ready to let go quite that easily. I try whenever I can, and as hard as it may get to face the reality of what things are from what they used to be.

And so it goes: "What about your friends?"

Good question.

1 comment:

  1. So when I was young, I met a boy, I fell in love and I got married. And yes, my good friends fell off the face of the earth, because the only one in my life that mattered was "him". Fast forward this 14 years and a divorce...this is when I realized that I have friends....real good friends.

    I have my best friend from 1st grade, who even though we lost contact for a while, now calls me more than ever. When I was married she was single. Now she is the one that is married and I am single. And we are such great friends.

    I have my best friend from work who has grow to be like my sister. This friend is also married but is always there to listen to me and comfort me when times get a little tough...even at 3 in the morning!

    Then there are the countless friendships that I am slowly rekindling and trust me I will never let them go. Every person whom I brushed to the side I am bringing back into my life.

    I feel the same way that you do about wanting to be their rock...because many of these wonderful ladies have been there for me.