The other day, I heard a familiar song -- "What About Your Friends." I didn't know much about the lyrics, so I decided to search them online. It has been over 15 years after all. And what it boils down to: "Will your friends be around when you need them the most?"
I know that my closest friends have been my friends for years, and people that I believe I would go through the fire with because they trust me, and I trust them. And no matter what, you can lean on them, and they can lean on you.
Maybe I'm naive, but when I go into my friendships, I go into all of them expecting them to last forever. And to me, my friends are heroes. Any people that can listen to me fret as often as I do would have to be a hero in my book. :-)
I also know I've been burned deep when I've had friendships change. I guess it's hard when you've positioned someone in one way, and somewhere, when you weren't looking, it's no longer quite what you thought.
That said, I want to always be that for them. It's so hard when you're immersed in trouble spots in your life to see outside of that sometimes. And, I want to always come back to Earth and be their rock.
I guess it's the price that comes with getting older and friendships are harder than they used to be. And that's real. But still, you know? The truth is, I guess it's part of the growing pains, isn't it? It may be, but I'm not ready to let go quite that easily. I try whenever I can, and as hard as it may get to face the reality of what things are from what they used to be.
And so it goes: "What about your friends?"